More wedding updates!
I was supposed to have my first fitting for my tea-dress yesterday with Elaine of Emanuel b but she called me to postpone to next week as it was not ready yet. Initial reaction was of disappointment but it is just a couple of days later and I really don't want to hurry her.
On the other hand, I got a dress for Deborah who is my bridesmaid so yay thats settled!
Today we achieved quite abit and moved another step up the ladder to our wedding. Deli and I had a meeting with Rev Alvin Chan who is solemnizing our wedding and he went through some stuff with us. Although we are already attending the marriage prep class next week (through his recommendation), he gave us some sound advice to how we can handle conflicts with each other better and other stuff that'll help us alot. I am a big believer that in a relationship, a third-party persona can aid and help us realize stuff that we'll probably not realize on our own.
Whenever we quarrel, Deli is someone that detaches himself and wants OUT of the argument. On the other hand, I am someone that wants the argument to be settled and so I can go on and on until I feel it is resolved. Of course I am in the wrong most of the time (hey, I realize this and I admit it ok?) but Rev Chan says this is a very common situation and his character is actually more like mine. Phew i'm not alone.
What he taught us was that Deli should call for a time-out.. say a 10min time out. But he did warn Deli that he HAS to honour the 10mins and come back to me by then. Whether anot to "extend" the time-out, or to resolve the conflict, he needs to come back. He said something that I find is so true.. and that is that i'll be left hanging on a cliff and really uncomfortable if the matter is not resolved.
He also said that I am someone who thinks and then talks. Meaning whatever I am thinking, I say. I think both Deli and I can agree on that and so sometimes hurtful words come out that I don't mean at that point in time. I do bounce back really quickly and apologise really fast which Rev Chan says is synonymous to my type of character. Deli will take awhile longer but will get there sooner or later and then the conflict is resolved.
So hey, heres a little tidbit to those that are having problems resolving conflicts with your other half. If you're my kind of character, better just shut up (LOL - easier said than done). If you're Deli's kind of character, then make sure you call for the time-out!
Anyways, that was just abit of what we'll probably expect from the marriage prep class (frankly I can't wait!).
After our meeting with Rev Chan, we went to Orchard and got our wedding bands! YAY, another thing settled.
Here's a photo of it:

Pretty right? Deli wanted something really plain, he (unlike me).. does not care for the blings! I also wanted something simple and this was actually a "matching" pair although we could mix and match the rings if we wanted to.
The lady brought out soooo many pairs for us and for another couple next to us to shortlist. After shortlisting we realize that our pairs were all the simple and thin kind of bands whereas the other couple took out all the chunky and super big kind of rings.... not really our type. In the end, we chose the above pair and had her do the engraving for us. What words? Forever With You of course!! :)
- Bridesmaid dress SETTLED
- Wedding Bands SETTLED (to collect in April)
- Meeting with Rev Chan SETTLED
- Online E-Filing of marriage TO BE SETTLED BY TODAY!
Cheers :)
Update on Saturday, March 21, 2009 at 5:21AM by
Deli
yup it's been a fruitful day ~ finally we settled on the wedding bands and i like them very much ehehe, not too expensive and elegant looking, and of cos they symbolised our commitment to each other ^ ^
i already told my dearie long time ago that we will take things one at a time, up to our big day and not overly stress or rush into doing everything at once. so far so good, everything is progressing in order and i'm a happy man!